usually, guys are chivalrous towards their female friends (i mean friends from the opposite sex, and not girlfriends) and help them out proactively in situations where they wouldn't bother if the friend in need was a guy (unless asked by the guy, of course).
my question is - do girls think of this as friends helping friends, or as making use of guys?
just overheard a conversation which made me wonder about this. If the latter is true , even for, say, 25% of the cases, then that's ******
any lateral views?
PS: given the no. of comments on my blog lately, any views at all??
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some girls do use boys.. you cannot deny from that.
mind posting the conversation ;) ?
Aren't you generalizing too much?
But I suppose there are too many categories that could be made such as:
A. Girls who don't like guy friends helping them out, in say, lifting some heavy book etc, or giving them a hand climbing up the stairs etc and have no probs in speaking their mind
B. Girls who say they don't like chivalry, but secretly they do...
C. girls who do like chivalry and have no probs admitting it
D. girls who take a lot of advantage of chivalrous guys, yes such girls do exist sadly.
Ravish Kumar..!!
i would say, it is quite natural for guys to help out thr female friends considering this is the way nature has designed it.
Girls have been designed as physically less powerful...not to mean derogatory in any sense and guys as powerful & mascular. So, i guess this whole thing is derived from the Physical power.
It is thus very natural for guys to help out girls not only for physical stuffs (not THAT :P) but also other things. It should be treated as friends helping friends and not as making use of guys.!
Its a fine line dude...
But lets turn the question upon ourselves... if we know that there's a category of ppl who will willingly help us, will we always be righteous and never 'use' them?
@tintin, the part of conversation that i overheard was a two liner, and don't really remember to reproduce it here.
@yashada, yea, correct i am generalizing. but i was not trying to blame someone, just a little disappointed and wondering if the generalization was even, say 25%, effective
@sunny, personally i will do so, that is making use of someone's helpfulness without due regard, in an arms length transaction. in my personal relationships, it's always with due regard ...
It depends on motive of both the parties involved
The question is, what was the conversation that you over-heard??
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