Thursday, December 20, 2007
Elected Dictator
Wednesday, December 19, 2007
Goldman or Goldmine
$661,400 on an average ... wow!!!
Tuesday, December 18, 2007
Pillars...
Searching for something on my gmail, i came across mails from my wing-mates, from each one telling what they had to say about the rest. And that led to memories...
Guys, this is an ode to those times. Our relationship was not perfect; far from perfect. But we were there during tough times, and good times. We learnt a lot from each other, we developed with each other; we found solace in each other; and i found an island of comfort in you when i was surrounded by the one of the very few dark times of my life.
Looking back, I couldn't have asked for more. Those memories are amongst the very core pillars of what I am today. New pillars get added, new stories get built, but these are there to stay.
Wednesday, December 12, 2007
Another Indian Achiever
Monday, December 10, 2007
How many Maggies have you had?
...OK, lets remove the last of the above triggers, that wont stop me from having and enjoying Maggi... [:)]
Saturday, December 08, 2007
Maine Pyar Kiya
Wednesday, November 21, 2007
From the Past
Pain is the glacier from which all the rivers of courage originate. All that is required is a valley that needs to be irrigated.
There is a duel - inside me - how do you choose sides. I am the two teams, I am the referee, I am the audience...how the hell I decide which side to choose. Even the duel is not well defined. One side is stronger cause ...
I need some all consuming work.
Work is the respite. An idle brain is the worst enemy of a genius.
Well, I did choose; actually I gave in to one side which got some impulses. It was bad, I learnt my lessons; and then life moved on.
But finding this piece was a good reminder of the struggle and the fact that I am capable of writing something that, at least to me, sounds a little bit poetic.
Sunday, October 28, 2007
Sleepless
Lying in the bed, light years away from sleep, what is the one thing you desire, one small thing, that would make the past day so much better, that will expel the insomnia out of you...or maybe make you even more sleepless? What is that one small thing that you are looking for?
Saturday, October 27, 2007
Take a lift...
The guy lived in the same apartment complex as me, and is a graduate from IIT Kharagpur(though much senior to me, circa 1985) and a resident of Nehru when he was in kgp. He works in Crisil and some of the people that have just joined our ratings advisory team at GMC were working in Crisil before here and he knew them well.
It was really great to meet someone so unexpectedly in the dead of the night and finding out we had so much in common. It was just the second time I had taken a lift in my life, and this happened. Can't help thinking what an interesting life a habitual hitchhiker would have, meeting so many strangers and getting to know them and trying to connect the dots...
Saturday, October 20, 2007
Finding Something
Having established a connection to the blog, I went ahead to read a few posts. The beauty was remarkable. The simplicity in which so wonderful thoughts were presented; the frankness and naturality of the stories being observed and written, endeared me to the blog.
Another addition to my google reader.
Monday, October 08, 2007
Forgiving Yourself
Over the last week or so I have read two books: The Kite Runner by Khaled Hosseini and For One More Day by Mitch Albom. Both novels tell stories about relationships and how somethings that the protagonist did in the past keeps haunting him till he gets a chance to redeem himself.
The books are very different from each other. The Kite Runner has a childhood friendship as its central story whereas it's the relationship between a mother and her son which runs through the plot in Albom's story. Hosseini's work spans over 3 decades whereas the story in For One More Day spans just one day, with memories of years gone by forming interludes. The Kite Runner is a bigger roller-coster of emotions, more complete in the sense that it depicts so many of human emotions.
The story is told from the perspective of the main character Amir, who longs to get praised by his father, who has the best friendship with the son of the house's domestic help. His life takes him through the toughest times that Afghanistan has faced, the earlier part of the story running through the time when Russia attacked Afghanistan. Through small sub plots, the author builds up the different characters and takes you to the world where you go through the same feelings as the characters experience: the shame of betraying a friend, the fear that you will lose your parent, the hopelessness, the anger that comes with guilt, the never-ending chain of thoughts that makes you an insomniac, the realisation that something is the one chance that you will get to redeem yourself. I specially loved the later part of the book where the story becomes a little fast paced, and the author makes it so real. There is no dramatisation of events. The way you learn of shocking events, without any fanfare, seems so true to life where there is no room for extra glamour; the truth being so simple and we learning it without the camera panning at stupid angles over and over again. The Kite Runner is a must read for anyone who has interest in the way humans interact with each other, how society behaves and how small events have effects that last all your life.
Coming to For One More Day, it is the story of Chich Bonnetto, a one time Major League baseball palyer, who is down and out in his life and tries to commit suicide. Instead of dying, he meets his mother, who had died eight years earlier. From then on, the story is a web of events in the current day, memories from the past and some notes that the author has found in the lead character's belongings. The text of the novel is not as powerful as The Kite Runner. But small snippets that you find in the book are so strikingly true that you stop to think about them. For example, on his mother's death, Chick says after you lose your parents, it feels like you are going into a battle without a backup you always felt you had, no matter what. That statement is so true, I could think of it in conjunction with my life, how whenever I have any trouble, I know at the back of my mind that I have my parents to go to, in case everything else falls apart. Chick realises so many other things while spending one more day with his long lost mother, one extra day which we long for after our beloveds are gone. Another thing that hit me in the novel is Chick's mother's habit of leaving him notes. It made me think how with the advent of technology, email and mobile phones, we have forgotten the beauty and value of handwritten letters. I remember, when I was in Delhi preparing for JEE, my father used to write letters to me. Those letters were a source of strength and motivated me to work harder. And today those letters are perhaps the biggest treasure that I have, the reminders of the love and faith my parents had in me, the reminders of one of the most important phases of my life. That is what we, as a civilisation, have missed with use of mobile phones and email.
Though the two stories are very different, one thing that is common is the advice that the lead character gets from people who love him most - forgive yourself, that is the first stop on the way to a better life, a life where you feel at ease with yourself and the world around you.
Wednesday, September 19, 2007
New York
A word on NY at the end. It is great; no doubts; with all the different background people living here; with all the activity and what not. But apna ghar apna hi hota hai. I am sure, most of those who come down and settle here would take a lot of time in really getting used to it.
Tuesday, May 29, 2007
Accounting standards up for significant changes
A new post that advises people to put those accounting classes on hold, according to an article on the Wall Street journal.
If this comes to happen; more than half of the financial ratios that i have mugged up will lose their existence; as most of them are based on the net income which these new standards will not have a place for; neither above nor below the line.
I am sure the CFA guys would be scrambling for setting up a new syllabus and all those accounting authors brushing up their knowledge for rewriting their texts.I guess I should also take an active part in the US culture and go sue those
guys who are responsible for this change; thankfully I wont need to do
that as this is not affecting me; at least not in the short run. My exam is within a week and I do not have to do anything like that; otherwise it would have been the last nail in the coffin and I would have decided to cancel the visit to Sri Lanka to write the exam.
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Thursday, May 17, 2007
the best times
Today, as i have just woken up, i secretly want someone to ask me,
"bf?" in a chat window. I want someone to come to my room just to
enter, sit, see me chatting or watching a movie and then leave without
making a single remark. I want to go to a room adjacent to mine and
complain about the kind of songs/movies/videos he likes. I want to
shout from one end, asking some stupid question to a person, about
something which even a dumb a$$^@!& can answer. I wish someone came
to my room or i might have gone to his room and asked "sutta hai?" and
most probably the answer from either side would be, "tck". I wish i
could go and lay on one bed which is small for even one person with 4
others. Oh!!! I wish i could do this all, one more time.
missing u all guys...
for the whole post by my friend, go here
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Saturday, May 12, 2007
life
life
you are so fragile
running after don't know what
ending in a jiffy, by death
never ending, in pain
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Friday, May 11, 2007
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hope
the difference between humans and other animals is that we have the concept of hope; we realise it when it is there and it makes us do things which are otherwise impossible
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Saturday, May 05, 2007
a discussion about wishes, utopia and karma
this is an excerpt from a chat i had with a friend of mine; i don't know how to put it more presentably, so just copied and pasted from my gmail chats section. And of course, I took permission from Neeraj before posting this.
me: waise agar free hai to mera abhi wala status message pad aur comments
My status message at that time was:
heart: why do wishes rarely come true?
mind: because most of the times they are stupid.
heart: but they are wishes, they have all the rights to be stupid.
Neeraj: okies
kyun deewana ho jata hai koi?
kyun armaan uthte hain kahin?
maalum nahin,
yeh dil aakhir chahta kya hai?
me: hehe
achhe poet ho tum bhi
Neeraj: nahin nahin
yeh shayari gadar the movie mein thi
me: koi is sawaal ka jawaab de de to jindagi bhar gulami karein
Neeraj: :)
hahaha
well wishes have every right to be stupid
me: yup, u r correct
see this is the good thing about u
Neeraj: but not every stupidity has the right to be fulfilled
or else, where would intelligence go??
down the memory lane
:P
me: yea thats correct, but why the hell do we need intelligence
to devise ways to fulfill our wishes only, right?
Neeraj: no dude
world is not only about wishes
intelligence has to be thr to maintain a balance
imagine if the world was filled with stupidity
also its difficult to imagine a world, if everyone was intelligent
me: i am not saying stupidity
i am just saying what about a world where everyone's all wishes were fulfilled, irrespective of their stupidity or brilliance
but then again my mind says: there is no such thing as utopia
Neeraj: wouldn't that be boring??
a world full of satisfaction
no motive or reason to keep going
me: so u dont want it to be boring, that would be just another wish, it will also be fulfilled
Neeraj: it already is fulfilled
me: tahts the problem with utopia
it keeps contradicting itself
Neeraj: i dont say, none of my wishes be fulilled
me: thats why it doesnt exist
Neeraj: i am saying, some of them shud and some shud not
me: why wish if u dont want it to be fulfilled
?
Neeraj: utopia is a foolish design of a pervert mind
i want it to be fulfilled
the best part is the ignorance about these things
we want 100 things, and out of these only 10 are to be fulfilled
me: utopia is an utopian creation of a high (by use of drugs) mind
Neeraj: but the best part is, we dont know which 10
me: what if i just want ten things
Neeraj: so, we work towards fulfillment of all
me: or maybe just a couple of things
Neeraj: then only 1 will be fulfilled, if 10% rule exists
me: why cant we get them
why has this nature to be so cruel
Neeraj: nature is not cruel
just because
me: then why are we not intelligent enough to think of some 9 wishes which we dont want to be fulfiled
Neeraj: its the balance netween spices of life that makes it interesting
me: and tht brings us back to the question why wish a wish u dont want ot be fulfilled
Neeraj: i want all my wishes to be fulfilled
and i wud work towards them
me: why do we want interesting? why dont we want satisfying
Neeraj: but the result is not in my hands
me: mayp be that is why we are humans and not dolphins
Neeraj: coz a satisfied soul doesnot exist
me: chal bahut bore kar liya tere ko
Neeraj: maybe
me: tu jaa , pad le
Neeraj: nahin nahin
me: yea may be
Neeraj: load nahin hai
i can go on this topic for hours
have thought over it a lot
when u have an unfulfilled dream u tend to think over it
me:
i guess the important thing is that u just need an indication that u
are going in the right direction, even in the knowledge that u wont
ever reach the destination (that is complete satisfaction) or may be
that the destination doesnt even exist, even in that knowledge, the
belief that u are moving towards the right direction, the belief that
hope exists ...may be that is what is important
Neeraj: karmanye vaadhikaraste ma phaleshu kadachanah
this is one shloka that has been mis-interpreted many times
or mis-understood
me:
but then what do u do when u dont know what ur karma is...u have some
ethics , beliefs which tell u dont do that...and some desires which
tell u do that, and those desires are not against ur ethics
either...its just conflict of ur basic nature, u pitted against urself,
and u cannot even isolate the jekyll and the hyde, they are one...what
do u do then
Neeraj: thats the problem, i know there can be confusion sometimes but confrontation seldom occurs
being a jekyll and a hyde is seldom in our control
so i think we should do what our karma asks us to do when u are in whichever form
me: then atleast why dont we turn into one ...just delete the other part
it wont be painful then
Neeraj: but thats not in our hand
we created them
me: yea, but if both forms are together, how do u know what
Neeraj: but destruction lies somewhere else
every moment we are supposed to take a decision
and this decision depends on the circustances faced by a person
me:
saala i feel helpless when i realise that we can go on discussing this
and even then, in all probability, i wont ever reach a conclusion
the only solace lies in the fact that time heals
have u ever faced such a time? or have views on this? if u hv ever thought in this direction,
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Monday, April 23, 2007
Baghdad Wall
Now, I do not know how US has a right to erect a wall in Iraq; that boils down to how exactly the government is being run there. However, irrespective of US's legal rights to do it; this is perturbing me a lot. What are your views on this? Forget US and Iraq, should such a wall be created at all?
I need more research into this. Will read more about Berlin Wall and this episode and then come back .
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Sunday, April 15, 2007
proof of God
THE ONLY PROOF HE NEEDED
FOR THE EXISTENCE OF GOD
WAS MUSIC
source:http://www.rense.com/general69/vonnegutsblues.htm
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Thursday, March 29, 2007
Dependence on cellphones
But what if you get pick pocketed and loose your cellphone and (bad luck!) wallet together and that too in a new place??!!! Don't tell me that I am a big pessimist. This is what happened with a friend of mine last weekend.
He has just come to Bangalore and last Saturday was his second day here. He was on his way back to his place after meeting me and another friend when all this happened. Let me summarize the situation in his words :
bhaiyon on my 1st visit to the city bangi, i lost my wallet(ATM in tht) and my mobile.(so i cdn't contact)
kya swagat kiya hai bangi ne..........ravish and sinha ke saath kiya poora mazaa khatam ho gaya tha while returning, saala kaise kaise apne room pe pahuche
Now, if he had any of our numbers memorized, at least we could have gone to rescue him.
So, I have decided that I will commit to memory some important numbers. The list contains roommates, family, my manager at office, few friends in Bangalore.
If you have any suggestions to include in this list, you are welcome to comment.
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27 % Quota Policy Stayed
Another good thing is that the SC bench has observed that "Reservation cannot be permanent and appear to perpetuate backwardness". An answer to this is also required. The government must have some kind of plan in place to really make the quotas (the existing SC/ST one or the proposed OBC one) effective; and that isn't possible unless they have a roll-out plan in place. The existence of a system that monitors the effectiveness and the necessity of the quota system, on an ongoing basis, is as much necessary as the quota itself, if it is at all needed.
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Tuesday, March 27, 2007
Calcutta HC puts CBI's Nandigram probe on hold
I just read this news. I am sure the court would have its reasons to do so; currently I have read that the court needs time to go through all the affidavits filed before it. And I respect the court's judgment; we need to believe in the judiciary. Obviously, if the court determines that there is no need for an inquiry, then we can forget this case; but what if the court decides in favor of an investigation.
Whatever information that I have read, based on that I know that the CBI has collected evidence and the court has ordered for the evidence to be kept sealed; but there must be witnesses' statements to be recorded; other evidence to be gathered. Given the state of affairs, I am sure the probability of the witnesses being jeopardized is very high and CBI might still be in dark about some evidence which might be uncovered along the probe. There must be some way to avoid this, the legislature and the judiciary should decide upon a set of protocols which would prevent harm to an investigation in such a situation.
If anybody has more information on this case, kindly comment.
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Monday, March 26, 2007
Friday, March 23, 2007
Public speaking do's and don't's
Public speaking do's and don't's
by Eszter Hargittai
As Jerry Seinfeld once noted, at a funeral, most people would rather
be in the casket than giving the eulogy, since public speaking stresses
people out more than death. But giving talks doesn't have to be such a
frightening affair.
Whether you're giving a talk at your local library, updating your
colleagues on work progress, or presenting to a large group of
strangers, there are some simple steps that should help make public
speaking a better experience - for both you and your audience.
Presentation format
Before
you start planning your presentation, find out from the organizers how
much time you have and what format they envision for your talk. Will
you be part of a panel or will you be speaking alone? Will you be in a
regular session or are you the dinner speaker? Do you have 15 minutes
or an hour? Do they prefer to leave time for questions? If yes, does
that come out of the allocated time you have been quoted? It is
important to know what is expected of you so you can be well prepared
and not have to scramble last minute to readjust your talk due to
unanticipated logistics.
Audience
Get information about who will be attending your presentation. Will
the head of the company be there or just co-workers? Are all
participants experts at the topic or will there be novices present? Is
there a mixed group of people representing different backgrounds or is
everyone on the same page regarding technicalities? Depending on the
audience, you will have to spend some time giving varying degrees of
background on the material and explaining certain concepts.
Location
If you have the opportunity, take a look at the location before the
time of the talk. It will help you visualize the context of the event
and ensure that you are not caught off guard by peculiarities of the
space.
The take-away message
If someone who missed your talk were to ask an audience member in
the elevator to sum it up, what would you like that person to say?
Focus on that message. Start out with this summary statement in mind
and build your presentation around it.
Outline
Once you have an idea of your presentation's main message, spend
some time thinking about the structure of the entire talk. All of the
material you cover should contribute toward communicating your core
message effectively. Start by writing an outline of the talk including
main sections and subsections.
Strong start
The
first couple of minutes of your talk should be the most prepared and
polished. You want to get off to a good start. Those are likely to be
the most nervous moments so it is best not to leave anything to chance.
By being well prepared, you can convey your messages with confidence.
It is important to establish early on that you are prepared and are
worth people's attention.
Motivation
Spend a bit of time up front talking about the inspiration and
importance of your message. Listeners should get a bit of background on
what motivated your work or project in the first place. What may be a
fascinating topic to you may not be to the next person so don't take
for granted people's interest in the issues you are discussing. Explain
why they should pay attention and why your comments matter.
Timing
People rarely want to listen to someone for longer than the allotted
time. Few people are such amazing speakers that an audience can't get
enough of them. Do not assume you are one of those few. Wrap up your
talk on time. To achieve this goal, ask someone to give you time cues
by indicating when you have five minutes left, two minutes and when you
have run out of time. Once you get the last notice, you should stop
talking.
A common pitfall for presenters is to add unprepared introductory
remarks to their talk. The temptation of addressing previous speakers
is great, but beware. If your total alloted time is 15 minutes (a
frequent limit with many speaking engagements), adding a 3 minute intro
(not to mention longer!) will use up 20 percent of your time. However,
this is something no one ever builds into their talk. Either prepare
for this or let go of the temptation to add commentary at the last
minute.
Flexibility
Organize your talk and know it well enough to have the flexibility
to skip certain parts or expand on others depending on the
circumstances. For example, if you do add a last- minute introduction
(as per the previous point), be flexible to skip a part of the prepared
content.
Confidence and enthusiasm
You have been chosen as a speaker because you know your topic. Make
sure that you exert confidence during your presentation. Don't
apologize for what you don't have with you to present or what you do
not know. Rather, focus on what you can talk about and discuss the
material with confidence. This does not mean that you should be
arrogant or patronizing. It means that you should look comfortable
covering the material.
Be sure to enjoy your talk and show your enthusiasm about the
content. Your interest in the topic will be contagious and will likely
result in a more engaged audience.
Question-and-answer session
If there is a Q segment then be sure to keep a polite demeanor
throughout. Thank people for their questions and feel free to praise
them for good points. If you are not sure how to respond to a query
then express your appreciation for the insightful comment and note that
you will look into it.
Practice makes perfect
Practice the presentation a few times: more if you have less
experience, less if you are a more seasoned public speaker. It can be
especially helpful to give the talk to someone who is not in your field
and is not intimately familiar with the material. This is helpful in
seeing whether you have made the talk too narrowly focused or overly
technical. Such a practice session does not have to involve the entire
talk, it can consist of telling someone about your presentation outline.
Don't write out the material word-by-word and don't plan on reading
text even if you do have it all written down. Having the text written
out and parts of it memorized will constrain you. Memorize the
structure of the talk and the outline, but not every word.
Contact information
Finish by giving the audience some contact information, including an
email address and Web site when applicable. Mention that you welcome
people's feedback and they should feel free to ask you questions either
after the session or by sending you email.
Do you have any more tips for making one's next public speaking
engagement less terrifying? Let us know in the comments or at tips at
lifehacker.com.
disclaimer: this is a copy-paste from lifehacker.
all the credit goes to them / the author
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10 Reasons You Aren't Rich
Nice article. First few points are quite typical of most of us; we realize that we are doing something wrong but do not appreciate the full impact of our wrong behaviors. Next, there are some points about how we manage our investments. Small article, wont take much time to read.
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Thursday, March 22, 2007
Obedience to Authority or Just Conformity
This study, conducted by Stanley Milgram sheds some light on this, though not without its controversies.
Personally I would agree with the conformity view. I have seen people doing stupid things - though not dangerous or stupid to a big extent, but still things which a person with a better control and thought process will deny - just because they have been asked to do so. Majority of the population, i feel, find it comfortable to follow orders and not make decisions by themselves; that i guess is the basic reason behind this and that I feel is the reason our civilization has developed in such a way that we have very few people at the top governing most of the others; take any government or any corporate, this is the basic structure of the organization. Though honestly, I cannot think of any other system which will be as stable, but its worth thinking why humans chose such a system; or to be more precise why such a system is the most stable. Any one who can shed light on this is more than welcome. :)
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Saturday, March 17, 2007
False Confessions : An Interesting Study
This blog explains a study done on how false confessions are made and how often they are even internalized by the confessor. The article is followed by quite a few interesting and thoughtful comments. Definitely worth a read for those who like to know about how the human mind works and those in the legal (criminal) profession.
And before I end, thanks a lot to Anjai for introducing me to Google Reader, using which I reached at this article
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Thursday, March 15, 2007
A Parent's Worst Nightmare
Thats the first page of Reader's Digest India March issue. The article at page 56 "A Parent's Worst Nightmare" is a must read. The caption below the title made me read it as soon as i saw it. I wont tell the complete story here; one needs to read it firsthand to understand what a real nightmare this couple went through. In short, this couple's baby was taken away from them because the authorities thought the father was abusing her; without listening to their side of the story completely and without doing necessary tests. The baby is put in foster care where her health deteriorates considerably. Thankfully, in the end she is restored to her parents.
I kept thinking about this after reading. The US has supposedly a very good foster care / support system for children who don't have families or are better off away from their families. But this story shows a very ugly side of it.
I agree, no doubts, that a child must be removed from his family if its dangerous for him there; but the question is who determines it and how. Thinking in the Indian context; it is still very far fetched that there will be a law and a system in place for this. The proposed "paalna" system by the union government might be a first step towards that; but it itself is ages from being enacted and put in practice.
Nevertheless, I still have belief in the Indian family and social values that they are strong enough to prevent such a nightmare.
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Tuesday, March 06, 2007
Wednesday, January 17, 2007
Quantification of sadness
Us humans, specially the breed called IITians, have a tendency to analyze everything logically. So, when faced with a difficult situation, we generally think of the reasons behind it and ways to cope with the situation. But sometimes the situation is such that it defies any normal logical thinking and then the only resort (again logic determines that it is the only remaining viable option; ironic, isn't it) is to ask why?
Like Joey said, "Why God, Why me?".
And then the left half of the mind takes over from the right, suppressing the pain in the way, and thinks whether pain is quantifiable? Whether a physically greater loss or more difficult problem would have caused more pain (and by pain I mean the emotional one, the one which is in our brain; or our hearts, to say more romantically) ; and then it thinks how could you measure that pain? After all, you have already resigned yourself to it; just asking questions; knocking on God's doors to pray; can there be more helplessness?
sadly, after a lot of deliberation, you reach just one conclusion, and as always a logical one, that you can not gauge this unless you face such a situation.
And they said that we were an intelligent lot...